This is because attributes/associations are actually methods(getters/setters) and not local variables. When you state “parent = value” Ruby assumes you want to assign the value to the local variable parent.
Somewhere up the stack there’s a setter method “def parent=” and to call that you must use “self.parent = ” to tell ruby that you actually want to call a setter and not just set a local variable.
When it comes to getters Ruby looks to see if there’s a local variable first and if can’t find it then it tries to find a method with the same name which is why your getter method works without “self”.
In other words it’s not the fault of Rails, but it’s how Ruby works inherently.